This is the landmark book introducing and legitimizing sexual behaviors and sexual fantasies as an addictive disease. Dr. Carnes proposes three levels of sexual addiction, describes the addiction cycle and its progression, and presents the faulty core beliefs of the addict and the coaddict and their healthy counterparts.
Genuine healing is available to women and men who seek to restore their integrity and live in continuous sexual sobriety. Through a thirty-day approach, Milton Magness, D. Min., prepares readers for long-term recovery with essential advice on how to cope with isolation, dishonesty, secrecy, and what to expect from therapy.
Milton Magness, D. Min., is the founder and director of Hope & Freedom Counseling Services in Houston, Texas. He is a certified sex addiction therapist and a licensed professional counselor. Dr. Magness is the president of the board of directors of The Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH).
“To discover and know one’s authentic sexuality is to be fully alive and a means to truly know oneself. I wrote Erotic Intelligence to guide and re-focus the quest for the wholeness, self-knowledge and healing that I believe sex addicts are seeking and lost sight of along the way.” – Alexandra Katehakis
“I consider this book a great gift to all recovering addicts and their partners who will benefit from its instruction and an impressive, effective resource for those who help them.” – Patrick Carnes, author of Out of the Shadows.
Why can’t he commit? Many women find themselves asking this question when in love with a man who won’t get married, won’t stop womanizing, or refuses to give up his sex addictions. Often this kind of man is bound by an unhealthy attachment to his mother. This phenomenon is called “mother-son enmeshment.” In When He’s Married to Mom, clinical psychologist and renowned intimacy expert Dr. Kenneth M. Adams goes beyond the stereotypes of momma’s boys and meddling mothers to explain how mother-son enmeshment affects everyone: the mother, the son, and the woman who loves him. In his twenty-five years of practice, Dr. Adams has successfully treated hundreds of enmeshed men and shares their stories in this informative guide. He provides proven methods to make things better, including:
When He’s Married to Mom provides practical and compassionate advice to the women who are involved with mother-enmeshed men, to the mothers who wish to set them free, and to the men themselves.
Did you have a parent whose love for you felt more confining than freeing, more demanding than giving, more instrusive than nurturing? Did you feel trapped in a “psychological marriage” with this parent? If so, you may be a victim of covert incest.
Identification of this kind of incest is difficult, since covert incest victims often feel idealized and privileged, not violated and abused. In Silently Seduced, Dr. Adams, through illustrative case examples and perceptive insight, provides covert incest victims a framework to understand what happened to them, how their lives and relationships continue to be affected and how to begin the process of recovery.
Stopping addictive behavior is the only way to start recovery. However, stopping the behavior is not enough to stay in recovery. True recovery is achieved by learning to cope with difficult situations and emotions. Dr. Patrick Carnes helps readers know how to deal with difficult affective states and guides them to a place of resilience so they can decide what is important in their lives. Readers will learn how to live optimally in the Recovery Zone. The work sets the stage for recovery Tasks Eight through Thirteen, providing readers with a practical approach to recognize the underlying emotional causes that perpetuate the addiction cycle.
Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery is the first to take techniques used by thousands of recovering sex addicts and show readers, step by step, how to break free of problematic sexual behaviors and live a healthier, more fulfilling life. A task-centered, competency-based, effective approach to recovery from compulsive sexual behaviors is presented. Dr. Carnes, through years of research, has found that if recovering sex addicts did certain tasks, they got better. If they did not, their life would remain problem-filled. Performing these tasks essentially creates skills that enable recovering sex addicts to manage their illness and to live rich, full, and relapse-free lives – and systematically following this process generates a positive outcome in all but about three percent of cases. A step-by-step, task-oriented model of how to manage sex addiction recovery for both individuals and professionals.
Offers counsel on how to overcome porn addiction and pornography-related problems, in a guide that explains the allure of pornography, documents its history, and profiles its industry while making recommendations on rebuilding self-esteem and healing relationships harmed by porn use.
This was one of the first books to comprehensively describe the application of the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous to sexual addiction and compulsivity. It also includes a wide range of personal stories in which recovering sexual addicts share their experience, strength, and hope.