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Sexually compulsive behaviors such as sex addiction, love addiction and porn addiction.
Sexual dysfunction can be both physical and emotional issues relating to sex and intimacy.
Relationship issues include mismatched desire, intimacy issues, trust issues, and more.
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Sex Addiction is a syndrome that includes emotionally (and sometimes physically) injurious behaviors to yourself and others. If you’re preoccupied with sexual behaviors to the extent that you have damaged key areas in you life such as relationships, finances, and career, you likely have a problem. Excessive and inappropriate use of sex can be a temporary salve for managing uncomfortable feelings such as anxiety, depression, untreated childhood trauma, or loneliness. Worse yet, this chronic problem can be both the source and, eventually, the cause of these feelings. We’re here to help you stop hurting now.
The pain of betrayal and broken trust is unimaginably painful. If you’re a partner of a sex addict, you’re most likely caught in a vicious cycle of feeling emotionally unsafe and needing the betrayer to reassure you that everything will be okay. This emotional roller coaster is completely normal given what you’ve just discovered. And besides having to take care of yourself, you may also be faced with parenting challenges, financial difficulties, possible exposure to sexually transmitted diseases, and social embarrassment. You deserve comfort and understanding. You don’t have to suffer alone. We’re here to help you heal.
If you’re using pornography to the extent that you can’t stop, then you know you have a problem. You’ve likely tried to stop multiple times but even your best intentions have failed you. Feeling demoralized, you keep giving up on yourself or believe that you’re doomed to a life of isolation, procrastination, and an inability to have sex with a real person. Internet porn addiction is persistent because of the impact it has on the brain. Sometimes there aren’t underlying issues driving porn addiction, it’s just become a bad habit. Chronic use of Internet pornography can be the cause of anxiety, depression, and erectile dysfunction. There’s nothing wrong with you - you’re just hooked. Get out of isolation today and reclaim your life, we’re here to help!
If you’re a Love Addict, you know the painful cycle of compulsively seeking relationships or romance despite negative social, emotional, financial, or physical consequences. The addiction to finding the “One” keeps you in fantasy and the endless pursuit of the perfect love object distracts you from uncomfortable feelings or emotions of early childhood abandonment or rejection. Love addicts tend to have unrealistic expectations for giving and receiving love. Slowing down, getting into reality and tolerating real intimacy – not intensity – is what’s required for you to recover and have a stable, secure relationship. Are you ready to heal? If so, we can help.
Sex Addiction is a syndrome that includes emotionally (and sometimes physically) injurious behaviors to yourself and others. If you’re preoccupied with sexual behaviors to the extent that you have damaged key areas in you life such as relationships, finances, and career, you likely have a problem. Excessive and inappropriate use of sex can be a temporary salve for managing uncomfortable feelings such as anxiety, depression, untreated childhood trauma, or loneliness. Worse yet, this chronic problem can be both the source and, eventually, the cause of these feelings. We’re here to help you stop hurting now.
Partners of sex addicts, spouses of sex addicts, or any significant other who is close with the patient will also need support when they discover the secret life of their mate. The pain of broken trust is massive. The partner or spouse in a relationship with a sex addict is exposed to sexually transmitted diseases, financial ruin and social embarrassment.
If you’re using pornography to the extent that you can’t stop, then you know you have a problem. You’ve likely tried to stop multiple times but even your best intentions have failed you. Feeling demoralized, you keep giving up on yourself or believe that you’re doomed to a life of isolation, procrastination, and an inability to have sex with a real person. Internet porn addiction is persistent because of the impact it has on the brain. Sometimes there aren’t underlying issues driving porn addiction, it’s just become a bad habit. Chronic use of Internet pornography can be the cause of anxiety, depression, and erectile dysfunction. There’s nothing wrong with you - you’re just hooked. Get out of isolation today and reclaim your life, we’re here to help!
If you’re a Love Addict, you know the painful cycle of compulsively seeking relationships or romance despite negative social, emotional, financial, or physical consequences. The addiction to finding the “One” keeps you in fantasy and the endless pursuit of the perfect love object distracts you from uncomfortable feelings or emotions of early childhood abandonment or rejection. Love addicts tend to have unrealistic expectations for giving and receiving love. Slowing down, getting into reality and tolerating real intimacy – not intensity – is what’s required for you to recover and have a stable, secure relationship. Are you ready to heal? If so, we can help.
If you suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED) you know how embarrassing, frustrating and demoralizing it can be. ED is defined as an inability to attain or maintain an adequate erection. It can occur during the first phase of the sexual response cycle, the excitement phase or during penetrative sex. There are a number of causes of ED, most of which aren’t permanent or irreversible. Anxiety, excessive porn usage, and feelings of shame about sex and sexuality are some common culprits. Whatever the underlying cause is for you, our sex therapists have experience in treating this problem and we’re here to help.
Premature ejaculation (PE) can be one of the most shameful experiences a male can experience. Societal pressure to preform only serves to make you feel worse about yourself as a man and a lover. PE is defined as ejaculation with minimal sexual stimulation before or shortly after penetration and before the person wishes it. Did you know that sometimes PE occurs because of pelvic floor tightness or from anxiety? And, men with PE need more touch, not less? If you feel too embarrassed to talk about this issue but know you need help, our expert therapists can lend an empathic ear and point you in the direction of appropriate resources. PE is not a lifelong problem. Get help today.
Do you suffer from extreme anxiety about sexuality when you get too physically or emotionally close to a sexual partner? Do you prefer no sex or anonymous sex to intimate relationships? Are you squeamish about bodily fluids and smells during sex? If this problem causes you distress or interpersonal difficulty, you may have sexual aversion disorder. On the other hand, sexual anorexia, describes a loss of “appetite” for romantic-sexual interaction. It’s also a fear of intimacy but without the aversion to sex. Instead, the sexual anorexic deprives themselves of sex and sexuality because it’s too emotionally painful to get close to another person. Instead they live in isolation and interpersonal deprivation. In either case, the first step to making changes is to ask for help. The therapeutic relationship is an intimate relationship. Making yourself vulnerable by talking about your pain is the beginning of learning to be intimate. We’re here for you.
Anorgasmia, also known as Orgasmic Disorder, is the inability to experience orgasm during any type of sexual activity. If you’re like a lot of women, you’ve “tried everything” to no avail and feel like something’s wrong with you. Your inability to orgasm can feel so shameful that you don’t talk about it with your girlfriends, even though you desperately know something’s missing and want answers. If you’ve already seen a gynecologist, then you know there’s nothing physically wrong with your body. Sex therapy can help. Talking about your unique situation and what happens to you during sexual activity, coupled with educational resources, are part of a winning formula. Take a deep breath. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, you can do this!
Vaginismus may be the most treatable of the pelvic pain disorders. It’s defined as involuntary spasms of the muscles of the outer third of the vagina. This vaginal muscle reflex may make sexual intercourse painful or impossible. If you suffer from this pelvic pain disorder, you know that it can occur at any point during the sexual response cycle. Since this is an involuntary reflex, you can actually change the patterns in your body. A sex therapist, along with a pelvic floor specialist who will prescribe daily, at home exercises for you, can assist with weekly conversations in helping you to relax and learn more about how your body works. You can start undoing these patterns today and begin moving toward a healthy sex life.
Vulvodynia is a pelvic pain disorder that affects the vulvar area of the female genitals. Symptoms of this sexual dysfunction include pain, burning, stinging, irritation or a sharp pain that occurs in the vulva. If you have this problem, you should see a gynecologist immediately. Seeking emotional support from a caring, non-judgmental sex therapist is also key to your healing. Together with your medical doctor, a sex therapist can assist you in negotiating the best course of action for your daily care. Psycho-education about your body, assisting with outside resources, and having a safe place to talk about your pain and concerns are crucial to your well being. Don’t despair. You can restore your sex life if you commit to putting your full attention on learning more about yourself and how your body works.
If you suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED) you know how embarrassing, frustrating and demoralizing it can be. ED is defined as an inability to attain or maintain an adequate erection. It can occur during the first phase of the sexual response cycle, the excitement phase or during penetrative sex. There are a number of causes of ED, most of which aren’t permanent or irreversible. Anxiety, excessive porn usage, and feelings of shame about sex and sexuality are some common culprits. Whatever the underlying cause is for you, our sex therapists have experience in treating this problem and we’re here to help.
Premature ejaculation (PE) can be one of the most shameful experiences a male can experience. Societal pressure to preform only serves to make you feel worse about yourself as a man and a lover. PE is defined as ejaculation with minimal sexual stimulation before or shortly after penetration and before the person wishes it. Did you know that sometimes PE occurs because of pelvic floor tightness or from anxiety? And, men with PE need more touch, not less? If you feel too embarrassed to talk about this issue but know you need help, our expert therapists can lend an empathic ear and point you in the direction of appropriate resources. PE is not a lifelong problem. Get help today.
Do you suffer from extreme anxiety about sexuality when you get too physically or emotionally close to a sexual partner? Do you prefer no sex or anonymous sex to intimate relationships? Are you squeamish about bodily fluids and smells during sex? If this problem causes you distress or interpersonal difficulty, you may have sexual aversion disorder. On the other hand, sexual anorexia, describes a loss of “appetite” for romantic-sexual interaction. It’s also a fear of intimacy but without the aversion to sex. Instead, the sexual anorexic deprives themselves of sex and sexuality because it’s too emotionally painful to get close to another person. Instead they live in isolation and interpersonal deprivation. In either case, the first step to making changes is to ask for help. The therapeutic relationship is an intimate relationship. Making yourself vulnerable by talking about your pain is the beginning of learning to be intimate. We’re here for you.
Anorgasmia, also known as Orgasmic Disorder, is the inability to experience orgasm during any type of sexual activity. If you’re like a lot of women, you’ve “tried everything” to no avail and feel like something’s wrong with you. Your inability to orgasm can feel so shameful that you don’t talk about it with your girlfriends, even though you desperately know something’s missing and want answers. If you’ve already seen a gynecologist, then you know there’s nothing physically wrong with your body. Sex therapy can help. Talking about your unique situation and what happens to you during sexual activity, coupled with educational resources, are part of a winning formula. Take a deep breath. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, you can do this!
Vaginismus may be the most treatable of the pelvic pain disorders. It’s defined as involuntary spasms of the muscles of the outer third of the vagina. This vaginal muscle reflex may make sexual intercourse painful or impossible. If you suffer from this pelvic pain disorder, you know that it can occur at any point during the sexual response cycle. Since this is an involuntary reflex, you can actually change the patterns in your body. A sex therapist, along with a pelvic floor specialist who will prescribe daily, at home exercises for you, can assist with weekly conversations in helping you to relax and learn more about how your body works. You can start undoing these patterns today and begin moving toward a healthy sex life.
Vulvodynia is a pelvic pain disorder that affects the vulvar area of the female genitals. Symptoms of this sexual dysfunction include pain, burning, stinging, irritation or a sharp pain that occurs in the vulva. If you have this problem, you should see a gynecologist immediately. Seeking emotional support from a caring, non-judgmental sex therapist is also key to your healing. Together with your medical doctor, a sex therapist can assist you in negotiating the best course of action for your daily care. Psycho-education about your body, assisting with outside resources, and having a safe place to talk about your pain and concerns are crucial to your well being. Don’t despair. You can restore your sex life if you commit to putting your full attention on learning more about yourself and how your body works.
Our therapists take a sex-positive approach and are passionate about helping couples connect at deeper levels of intimacy. Whether you’re struggling with issues of desire and dysfunction or looking to reach your sexual potential, we have the skills to assist you in your process. Some common themes we explore are:
