“The opposite of loneliness, it’s not togetherness. It is intimacy.”
~ Richard Bach
In the spaces between two people who share familiarity and closeness, lives intimacy. A vibrant atmosphere that weaves connection, mutual understanding, and the sense that the other perceives you as nobody else does–these ingredients make the heady cocktail out of which love and eroticism emerge. This most private and personal space can occur with a lover during sex, in a cozy restaurant, or on a walk along a lake. How do you make yourself known?
Intimacy reveals our inmost self–our inner sanctum which we ourselves often discover only in communion with another. How many times have you had a revelation about your sexuality while having sex, or learned about an essential value you hold while in deep conversation with someone you love? Intimacy means to make known, but it teaches about ourselves as well as the other. When we stop hiding from ourselves and begin to tell the truth about who we are, we make ourselves vulnerable to see into the depths of our own soul.
Such openness can be frightening because there’s the possibility we’ll discover something unsavory, distorted, or out of sync with whom we think we are lurking in the corners of our psyches. Courage is a requisite for this most intimate of all tasks, as are a willingness to venture into the depths of the unknown and the faith that we will emerge changed for the better.
Strip down to your nakedness and bare the raw truth of who you are. Don’t be surprised if you find that in this most exposed state you connect to yourself, your lover, and the divine in unimaginable, powerful, and erotic ways.
Daily Healthy Sex Acts:
- Expose your true self to yourself. Think about a part of you that feels stuck or scared. Close your eyes and locate the feeling in your body. Dive deeply into the feeling and see what arises. Write down your experience.
- Share your deepest, darkest secrets with your lover. Strip off your armor and stop worrying about looking good. Dare to expose your truth.
- From this place of vulnerability, open your heart to love and to be loved.